COVID-19 Update: San Juan County has closed all overnight lodging until May 30, 2020. Couples Retreats and In-Person therapy sessions with John and Julie Gottman will be on hold until June. We will be watching developments closely in order to take great care as we make decisions about future events and the rescheduling of canceled Retreats. Click here to read more.

Learn research-based tools for building and maintaining intimacy from the comfort of John and Julie Gottman’s private island home.

Have you ever planned a wonderful romantic vacation, complete with a lovely room, candle-lit dinners and white sand beaches, only to have your dream become a nightmare when tense quarrels and silence spoil the sunset? We have been listening to painful stories like these for nearly 40 years.

Now you can restore your relationship while having a world-class romantic holiday. In an exclusive, small-group two-day couples retreat, you’ll learn new skills for deepening intimacy, managing conflicts, and enhancing your sense of shared meaning in a private, comfortable, and beautiful setting. The retreats are presented by the Gottmans in their seaside home in Washington’s San Juan Islands and include lectures, role plays, discussions, and exercises completed just with one’s partner.

The intimate setting enables couples to receive personalized, special attention from the Gottmans while enhancing and restoring their relationship.

During the retreat, you will learn skills to:

  • Strengthen your friendship
  • Deepen your understanding of one another
  • Spice up your intimacy
  • Transform inevitable relationship conflicts so you can build solid bridges between the two of you
  • Unearth the values and life purpose you share

The Gottmans welcome you to join them in their lovely island setting.  While the retreats take place at their home, participants stay nearby in beautiful accommodations.  If you wish, you can combine the retreat with a romantic island holiday experience as well.  Their event planner can help you arrange the details of your visit to Orcas Island including lodging, transportation, dining, and options for outstanding recreational opportunities, including sailing, kayaking, whale watching, golf, and hiking.

The retreats are limited to seven couples. We recommend that you register early.

2020 Private Couples Retreat Dates

  • June 6-7
  • July 25-26
  • August 22-23
  • October 3-4

To read more information about these retreats, please click here or call (206) 313-0471.

Online Marathon Couples Therapy

In addition to providing Private Couples Retreats, John and Julie Gottman also schedule appointments with individual couples for private Marathon Couples Therapy Online.

In this powerful intensive therapy format, one couple meets with either John Gottman, Julie Gottman, or both for five hours a day on three consecutive days. Marathon Couples Therapy can thus accommodate clients traveling from other locales who cannot attend weekly therapy sessions. It provides an intensive, condensed and highly focused approach to relationship issues that can help couples move quickly through specific issues and learn important new skills in a short period of time.

Click here to learn more about Marathon Couples Therapy. To schedule an appointment with John Gottman, please contact Kristi Content by email at or by phone at (206) 313-0471. For appointments with Julie Gottman, please contact Kathryn Schwartz by email at or by phone at (206) 381-8456.