If you’re unsure of why you are feeling angry, it can be useful to think of anger like an iceberg. Only about 10% of an iceberg is visible, the rest of it is hidden below the surface of the water. Similarly, when we are angry, there can be other emotions hidden beneath the surface. It’s easy to see a person’s anger, but it can be difficult to see the underlying feelings the anger is protecting.
Learning to recognize anger as a basic, valid emotion, and as a protector of our raw feelings, can be incredibly powerful. It can lead to healing conversations that allow couples, as well as children and parents, to understand each other better. Download this PDF poster and print it out for use at home, in the classroom, or in the office.
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